Angst in my pants
I think we are going to change doctors. I love, love, love my OB but she's not a high risk doctor and she's not a specialist. I have to let go of the notion that there will be anything normal about this pregnancy and acknowledge that I'm about as high risk as they come.
So, I've been doing due dilligance and think the best doctor is the one who, when anyone describes him they start with, "he's not touchy feely." You also often have to wait hours for your appointment and he personally decides case by case who he will take. He'll take me, but only under the condition that I transfer to him permanently and he'll deliver the baby. No consultation. He also likes a lot of money upfront (don't know how much yet) so there may be no turning back. Sounds simply awful to me -- but he's the best. We have an appointment in a week and a half.
Tomorrow I'll see another doctor who is head of perinatology at a very good hospital here. He is touchy feely. He called me himself. I liked him. Problem is, he thinks most cases of IC are misdiagnosed (I suspect he's right) and he believes that most late second trimester losses are caused by some sort of infection -- and if watched properly you don't need a cerclage. But what if I do? I feel like I'd be going through this pregnancy without a net and that makes me want to pass out. I'll learn more tomorrow -- but if he'd be willing to put in a cerclage, plus do the monitoring he wants we could both be happy. We'll see how persuasive I can be.
The worst part of all of this is having to provide excruciating detail about my loss. I don't remember how much she weighed and I don't know what my white blood count was. I have to get the pathology report from when I was in the hosptal and it all makes me so fucking sad. I don't want to have to do this -- I want normal, I want my little girl. I want my doctor who knows all this shit because she was there. But I just don't think she is the right doctor and I'm not sure I could live with myself if I didn't do everything I could to bring this baby home.